Resources


This page contains links and resources on a variety of topics that may be helpful to you.  In most cases, Dr. Blum is not the author of these items, but they are accessible with permission.   If a link no longer works, or if you find something valuable on the web you would like to share, please contact me to share your thoughts. This resource section remains under development, so check back again soon for new resources.

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 Couples and Relationships

Emotionally Focused Therapy: Bolstering Couples Emotional Bonds

An interview with Dr. Blum from PsychCentral.com

The Brain on Love

From the NY Times.  About the interpersonal neurobiology of love.

Eight Surprising Myths About Relationships

An interview with Dr. Blum from PsychCentral.com

5 Relationship Saboteurs and Strategies That Work

 An interview with Dr. Blum from PsychCentral.com

Relationship Tips for Those Rocky First Few Years of Marriage

An interview with Dr. Blum from PsychCentral.com

Psychologist-Recommended Books on Relationships

From PsychCentral.com

 

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)-Specific Resources

Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Dr. Susan Johnson, the founder and developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).  

Excellent resource for individuals and couples on the new science of love and building a stable, safe, and secure love relationship.

www.EFTResourceCenter.com 

This is Dr. Blum’s website (along with her colleague Dr. Irwin) for local EFT-related events, resources, and couples workshops.

www.ICEEFT.com

This is the website for the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Here you will find links to the following:

o   Summaries of research on EFT

o   More information on the Hold Me Tight book and program

o   Other audiotapes, DVDs, and professional training events

What You're Trying to Tell Him When You Are Angry [5 Ways to Fight Through to a Loving Marriage]

This blog writer does not identify herself as connected with EFT, but she “gets it” entirely -- perhaps she's been reading Hold Me Tight (see link above).  An excellent illustration of how a fight develops and how to find one's way out. 

 Psychology Today

This website for the national magazine publishes many articles on couples relationships, and Dr. Sue Johnson (founder of EFT) publishes on this site.  If you search for “Sue Johnson” on the home page, you will get a listing of articles - some written by Sue, some written by others referencing Sue’s work (or arguing with it). Here are a few of the best:

o   Monogamy: Are We, Can We Be, Monogamous?

Why monogamy is worth a chance.

 

o   Can Love Last a Lifetime? From Infatuation to a Lifelong Symphony

Shaping the bonds of love to last a lifetime.

 

o   Suppressing/Expressing Emotions: How shutting down your feelings can be disastrous to your relationship

 

o   Fighting Fair - Who Can Do It?: When couples argue, what works and what doesn't work?

Explores the myths of fair fighting – and what to do instead.


Children, Adolescents, and Parenting

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

By Brene Brown: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead

 

Eight Myths of Fostering a Healthy Stepfamily -- An interview with Dr. Blum on PsychCentral.com

Talking with Your Daughter (or Son) About Her/His Changing Body and Sex -An article written by Dr. Blum for the Institute for Girls’ Development


How to Teach Decision Making Skills to Adolescents

A clear and to-the-point guide on helping your teen develop better thinking and decision-making skills from the Youth Services Bureau of Barry County, Michigan.

Five Reasons to Stop Saying “Good Job”

(pdf attached)

Taking Your Teen to a Therapist  -- Wise advise on how to engage your teen in therapy from PsychCentral.com


Parenting Matters: Raising kids who are happy, healthy, and fully themselves. [Click on the Articles/Blog link at the top.]

Scientific information and wise advice from parenting expert Tina Bryson, Ph.D.

This is an especially good one on how to talk to Tween girls (and boys, too).

 


Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Resources

 

Answers to Your Questions For a Better Understanding of Sexual Orientation & Homosexuality

An overview of sexual orientation, coming out, and other important topics including LGBT teens and LGBT parenting.  A good place to start.

Answers to your Questions About Transgender People, Gender Identity, and Gender Expression

 An overview of  gender identity and gender expression, and other important topics including gender non-conforming children/teens and parenting issues.  A good place to start.

Our Daughters and Sons: Questions and Answers for Parents of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Youth and Adults.  [Pamphlet from PFLAG]

Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians & Gays Talk About Their Experiences (1997) by Carolyn W. GriffinMarian J. WirthArthur G. Wirth

Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents (1993) by Mary Borhek 

Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered, or Questioning Son or Daughter (2003) by Kevin JenningsPat Shapiro

Mom, Dad, I'm Gay: How Families Negotiate Coming Out (2001) by Ritch C. Savin-Williams

This Book Is Gay [For Teens] (2015) by James Dawson

Be Yourself: Questions and Answers for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Questioning Youth [PFLAG Pamphlet, one-page summary]

Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is (2005) by Abigail Garner 

Our Trans Loved One: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People Who Are Transgender and Gender Expansive [PFLAG amphlet]

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals

This comprehensive, well written guidebook explores the unique challenges that thousands of families face every day raising their gender-variant and transgender children.  An excellent resource of information and support for parents, family members, and professionals.


Ryland's Story.  A moving video of a family's experience with their transgender child: "This is what happens when parents love their children unconditionally."  


Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son (2013)

 

 Working with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Families in Adoption

A host of research-based resources from the Child Welfare Information Gateway on adoption and LGBT families.

  

Adoption-Related Resources

(This section is under development.)

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, by David Brozinsky, Ph.D., Marshall Schechter, MD., and Robin Marantz Henig.

This book outlines developmental tasks at each of seven stages throughout the life of an adopted person.

 Impact of Adoption on Adults

This factsheet addresses themes of how adoption affects adults, including loss, the development of identity and self-esteem, interest in genetic information, and managing adoption issues.

 Child Welfare Information Gateway

Information Gateway offers information on all aspects of adoption for professionals, policymakers, and the general public.  The organization develops and maintains a database of resources on adoption-related topics, and maintains a database called the National Foster Care and Adoption Directory, which lists support groups on a state-by-state basis.